I spent this weekend relishing the fresh autumn air. I love autumn. The crispness, the warm sunshine, the changing leaves and yes, even the comradery of cheering on our favorite football teams.
When I think of fall, I immediately think of trees losing their leaves and how this is such a strong symbol of letting go. Letting go of what no longer serves us so that we can get back to the roots of who we truly are.
One of the biggest lessons I have had to learn through starting my business is letting go of what other people think or expect of me, and instead listening to my heart.
And truly the most difficult part has been letting go of my own expectations about what I think I should be doing or what my life should look like. This has been so much harder than I ever imagined.
I had buried my own passions and desires for my life so deeply under the expectations and norms that are set for us by society, friends, family, etc; that I had no idea what I even really wanted.
Or so I thought.
When I started really asking myself what I wanted for my life, I realized that I did have the answers. The trick was accepting these things and not judging them as being too much to ask for, impractical, foolish, and self-indulgent.
When I started my coaching business I found myself looking to other coaches for inspiration and guidance. I signed up for a year long coaching program that was full of incredible information, but I found myself being swept away in comparisons and striving to create a certain image and lifestyle that wasn’t really me.
I started to believe I had to do things and appear like everybody else in order to be successful. I forgot that my ideal client was specific to me and would resonate with my authentic message. Because I was pushing myself to be someone I was not, I was feeling lost, overwhelmed and not good enough.
When I realized this, I gave myself permission to step away from looking at what everyone else was doing. I checked back in with what was true to be. What did I really want my life and business to look like? What was most important to me? Who did I really desire to work with?
Some people believe that holding on and hanging in there are signs of strength. However, there are times in life in which it takes much more strength to just let go.
I had to let go. Again. And again. And again.
Since I have started my coaching business, I have let go of years and years of thoughts and beliefs and layers upon layers of masks I have worn. I keep digging deeper and finding more to let go of. This process has been instrumental in getting to know my true self and desires. And now my authentic self is at the core of everything I create in my business.
Letting go is such an incredibly powerful journey. But it does not happen overnight.
As you start your coaching business you will be faced with all those things that are no longer serving you. It will become clear which things are supporting your desires and happiness, and which things are holding you back from your true self. You will have to let go of the things that are no longer aligned to make room for the amazing business and life that you are consciously creating.
To letting go so you have space to let your light shine!