“People are capable, at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of.”
― Paulo Coelho, Alchemist
When did we decide that we were supposed to have our whole life figured out by the time we are 25? And heaven forbid that we still are working to figure it all out by the time we are 30, 40 and beyond.
We are lead to believe that we must pick our path in life and then we are stuck…so we better pick right.
No wonder so many of us get to college and go through a ‘quarter-life crisis’ as we are expected to decide what direction to take…for the rest of our life.
The truth is, you never know when inspiration will strike and you will awaken to your dreams. Many of us know deep down what we want to do with our lives, but it becomes so deeply buried beneath all the ‘shoulds’ that we don’t even remember it is there.
I believe that uncovering your dreams and desires is essential for finding true happiness. Not only uncovering, but also allowing yourself the freedom of going after your dreams.
You may be asking yourself what this has to do with food and body image. And truthfully a lot.
Feeling lost and disconnected from the things we want in life leaves us empty and dissatisfied. We are left looking for something to fill this gapping hole and bring us peace. For many of us, food becomes a convenient and often (temporarily) effective companion.
Getting in touch with our purpose and passions is truly an integral piece of the emotional eating puzzle.
I missed this piece for years, as I became obsessed with getting healthy, finding the perfect diet and, of course, perfecting my body and weight.
I became so focused on the physical parts, that I never even stopped to consider that there were other aspects of my life that were fueling my deep unhappiness and my never-ending battle with food.
When I look back at my journal I see the words “lost” and “stuck” over and over again. And these are words that I commonly hear from my clients.
When we don’t know what we want or where we are going, it is very common to feel lost and stuck.
How can you get moving if you don’t know where you want to go?
This is why I believe getting clear on what you desire in life is an essential component to overcoming your struggle with emotional eating.
These are the steps you can take to gain clarity around what you want and get yourself ‘unstuck’
- Reconnect with what you really want. The trick is separating what YOU want from what you think you should want or what is expected of you.
Hint: Dream BIG
For me, It became clear that I was being called to help women who struggle with emotional eating and body image….yes, even though this is NOT what I went to school for. It also became clear that I desired a business that I could run from my laptop so that I had the freedom to be my own boss, set my own schedule and travel.
- Give yourself permission to go after your dreams
- Decide that you are going to make this happen….No matter what!
- Come up with a game plan…AKA: action steps
- Take that first baby step and then take another and another
Sounds simple enough, right?
I will admit that I had help with each of these steps.
I had spent so much time stuck seeing things the same way that I needed someone to guide me through the ‘shoulds’ and outside expectations so that I could reconnect with my hidden desires.
Doing this gave me back my direction and purpose. I became excited about the possibilities that lay before me. I was inspired.
Soon I could barely hear the call of the food from the cupboards.
If you are feeling lost and stuck and like food is your only alibi, start dreaming.
It is never too late to reconnect with your passions and dreams.